A friend came to my desk this afternoon, then invited me for a piece of cake and coffee. She has a serious problem I supposed.
Over a cup of coffee, she started. "I need your advise". Simply that. People around me come to me and ask for advise. Most of them come back with another need of advise. What I tell them is only a common-sense way of thinking. I didn't go to phsycology class or so in university. Well, I did have 2 -3 semester for that kind of class, but it was not my major. Only a supporting subject for my major. What taught me about life and how to deal with it is my own life.
I experienced enough. Not to mention that I am capable with all those advises. What I am telling here is I had many bad experiences in life. Started when I was a very young kid. I was about 5 or 6. The topic was I wanted something, but it was too expensive for my parents. So, I decided not to have them. I feel sad, but I managed it.
When I was about 8, my father slapped me on my face. Why? I refused to go to school walking in the rain, eventhough my mom already prepared me raincoat and umbrella. It was hurt. I feel sad but I managed it. When I was 13, I faced a truth that my father had an affair with another woman. I didn't tell anything, not even to my mom. I knew she knew it but we decided to keep it for ourself. It was painful, but I managed it.
I met a nice dutch guy. We were in love and we wanted to get married. After all preparation, on one christmas morning, I heard a very painful truth. He met someone else and decided to break up with me. I cried for two days, but later on I managed it.
The biggest disaster happened on earth. I lost contact with my parents and one of my sister. It was the biggest lost ever in my life. I found them alive few days later. I dare God for another disaster.
Several years later, I met my another part of lost soul. We feel we are for each other. After 5 years of living together, we have to say goodbye for each other. Why, his mother doesn't approve our relationship. We cried. But we manage all those sadness. It has been 3 years now, and still we have those feeling. He married to someone else and having a kid. I don't have any pain anymore. I managed my feeling so well about it. God answers my request.
Today, I, by all my painful live experiences help others in solving and dealing with their relationship. Ever heard a line,"all problem you had makes you a stonger person". That's true even more true, makes me getting wiser.
So, do you have any problem? Don't complain. Face it, deal with it. Or when you need me to talk to, just buzz me.
